There is Chinese proverb “If you want happiness for an hour – take a nap. If you want happiness for a day – Go fishing. If you want happiness for a year – inherit a fortune. If you want happiness for a life time – help someone else & for me, if someone wishes to have regular doze of happiness he should interact more often with Gujarati. 🙂
If I distribute a piece of paper amongst all of you, how creatively will you utilize it? Most of you would either like to make out a paper boat or a plane and shoot at me. Things are BEST enjoyed when done in weird and creative manner. Same goes with the life. Isn’t it?
Each and every moment of our life is like a piece of a paper – either crumble and dispose it of or make out a plane or paper boat out of it and start sailing in the journey of the life. Memories and Feelings are just like our Guests, let them go don’t bind them. Literally speaking, this all depends on how we program our mind.
Now don’t be surprised if I tell you I too am a proud owner of a factory called Mind. On an average a human being produces 50-60k thoughts a day, but I consistently keep on breaching all human parameters with RECORD production exceeding 100k a day and most of them are negative. At times, I turn skeptical at a mere glance of my crooked shadow even I am standing straight. Being candid, Negativity has immensely helped me in building creativity and if I were asked to produce a movie more destructive and damaging than 2012 – World is Going to end – I would produce a movie titled – Universe is Going to End & I will certainly stand a chance to win Oscars.
Well, moving on a serious note, this all started after my accident and during my hospitalization days. I used to peep out of window and envy the busy world around me due to my lack of mobility – those were the moments when I encountered anxiety and depression. I started perceiving myself as a protagonist and world as a whole turned out to be antagonist. Subconsciously, I was on a sort of retaliation mode to prove my worth to the world for the reason which I have failed to figure out till now. I turned more aggressive in my career proceedings and turned hostile when I had to be social. I started deviating from the path of my journey towards life filling it with a BIG vacuum of Happiness.
This I realized last year when I went to India during my summer break. I had a privilege to share some candid moments with one of my friend Ashish. I asserted that he should try his luck in the Gulf. He asked me – for what? – I pursued him that you can build out a fortune there – I went on with a sense of boasting – you can have a big house – enjoy your time with friends and family with a sense of relaxation. He was prompt to reply – then what I am doing now? Don’t you feel I am happy now? Why should I stake my present for the sake of the future? I was on back foot and was clueless to respond to him. After thorough deliberations, I realized I had misconstrued the term happiness completely.
I was under the impression that Happiness flows naturally to materialistic people and comes with an expiry date to those who come across any traumatic incidents. I always felt happiness has bid a good bye to me. Fortunately and thankfully he made me realize that – HAPPINESS lies right below our nose and guess what I wasted Good 17 years for the same. Happiness is a natural and unbiased gift from god.
Our life is like a Paper Dosa. Dosa is best eaten with bare hands and we try to complicate with Fork, spoon and Coke – same goes with the life – Don’t complicate it too much. Live Simple- Stay Simple.
Internally, we are all broken, but we should remember even a broken crayon can color evenly. We don’t drown by falling in water, we drown by staying there. Life expands or shrinks in proportion to our courage – our thoughts. Destiny is not created by wearing BRANDED shoes but by taking right steps.
We cannot compare our life with others – there is no comparison between Sun and Moon – they shine when it’s their time. If someone shows you their color, don’t try to repaint them. Opinions are not facts. We need to move from person for whom we are Subject Matter the most to the person whom we Matter the most. Never design your character where everyone can roam freely – design your character like Burj Khalifa where everyone aspires to reach.
God has blessed all of us the ability in proportion to the problem we have to combat with. Never underestimate your problem with the ability you possess to deal with it. Your FAITH has to be greater than your Fear. Worrying does not empty of its troubles TODAY but definitely empties today of its strength and happiness. We are here to face REALITY what we end up is facing Stress, Anxiety & Depression. All the problems are stuck between MIND and MATTER – if you don’t mind it does not matter.
Anxiety, Stress and Depression are caused because of the gap between nothing and everything – so expect nothing and accept everything.
Out of 100 problems what we perceive as real problems, try to recon template and analyze 90 would be completely made up scenarios – focus on balance 10 life would be much happier than ever.
Start living in Present and stamp TODAY as your Favorite Day in your calendar – you will find world much happier place to live as otherwise life does not come with an option clause with regards to happiness.
Author: CA Falgun Shah
